#WeekendCoffeeShare 05/07/16


I’m up early because I’m back to getting my morning run/walk/run in before sunrise. So I can linger over our coffee today, because I feel like I already accomplished a lot already for the morning. Yay for good decisions!

If we were having coffee, it would be on the sofa of truth…it looks like it might rain sometime during the day, so lets get comfy. I’m feeling an Ethiopian blend for today…as a reward for my morning run and a celebration for all the new things happening in my life. The first week of May was okay, it kinda felt like the first day of school at the office. I am on a new desk and have been trying to find my bearings in a very fast-paced and demanding environment. I’m hoping that I would settle down by next week and not feel so much anxiety hitting ‘send’ on an email. We’ll see.

If we were having coffee, I would tell you that Mother’s Day still brings an ache in my chest. Five years and counting…I still miss my mother every day and tomorrow is the (dare I say it?) mother of all things spoil your mum and make sure to snap a photo of it aaaand post it on social media. Already some of the posts are making me tear up, so instead of adding to my sadness, I choose to stay off social media on the day. Don’t get me wrong, I’m happy for all the women who are mothers or mothering children, I just wish that mine was still here to be part of the celebration.

If we were having coffee, I would tell you that someone asked me at work yesterday if I would be doing anything special for my mother and I was tempted to say…yes I am, I will be taking a pretty bouquet to her grave. But it wasn’t right and my sadness is my own and the person really didn’t know. So instead I was kind and honest and said the words that still bring a catch to my throat.

I feel some guilt because the conversation just took on a sad note, so I will tell you that despite tomorrow being a wistful day for me…this particular Mother’s Day is not a sad day for my family. We are celebrating our little blessing and my sister-in-law. Praise God for all His blessings.

If we were having coffee, I’m ready for my second cup… and a change of subject so tell me about your week and your plans for the rest of today, I’ll brew while you talk.

*****#WeekendCoffeeShare is an awesome link-up where coffee (or some other awesome beverage) is being shared over great conversations.

#WeekendCoffeeShare originated at Part Time Monster:

I started the Weekend Coffee Share last year after lots of feedback and several months of writing posts that imagined a conversation with my blog readers that started with the “if we were having coffee” line. The coffee share runs on the weekends, and there aren’t a lot of rules—-posts just need to be formatted like a conversation over beverages (we’ve had tea-drinkers and cocktail-hours as well as coffee) AND be written within the past week (so you don’t need to publish on the weekend to join the link-up). The hashtag #weekendcoffeeshare is in use all weekend on Twitter and Facebook, and it is sometimes used a bit during the week as well. .~Part Time Monster


  1. May 7, 2016 / 9:26 am

    I know exactly what you mean about that wistful feeling on Mother’s Day! 29 years since I lost mine. But you’re right — even with that little touch of sadness, it’s still a beautiful day to celebrate mothers everywhere, even those who are only with us in spirit.

    • Vernette
      May 7, 2016 / 9:36 am

      Who feels it knows it! ((HUG)) for you.

  2. Kathleen Howell
    May 7, 2016 / 9:31 am

    ((HUGS)) I’m without my mom too.. We’ll spend the day with my mom-in-law and make it the happiest for her we can.. Hang in there..

    • Vernette
      May 7, 2016 / 9:35 am

      ((HUGS)) for you too! Love that you celebrate your mom-in-law!

  3. May 7, 2016 / 9:38 am

    Thank you for your honesty. It is good to remember those who have lost their Mom’s. My sister-in-law lost her mother on Christmas a few years ago, and I can still see the pain when we all get together to celebrate Mother’s Day. Good for you for staying off social media! Take a breather, relax, and enjoy the day, celebrating His blessings in your life:)

    • Vernette
      May 7, 2016 / 9:41 am

      Thank you for your kind thoughts Lindsey. ((HUGS)) for you and your SIL.

  4. May 7, 2016 / 9:42 am

    I’m impressed with your pre-sunset run – yay you! Having lost my mother as well, I share your wistful feeling about Mother’s Day. But we learn to connect to through the love still in our hearts don’t we? Wishing you a peaceful weekend, and a easy grace-filled work week.

    • Vernette
      May 7, 2016 / 9:43 am

      Same to you Deborah! Thanks for having coffee with me.

  5. May 7, 2016 / 6:26 pm

    My mom lives 1100 miles away and I don’t see her often. She is a bit fragile at 84 so she can’t travel anymore. She’s a cancer survivor. Every day I am reminded that it is one less day that I will have my mother. That makes me sad but happy that I still have her where I can call her and talk to her. Mother’s Day is bittersweet. My brother was born on Mother’s Day and he’s gone now so every year I am reminded of him, too. And last year, my dad died on the day before Mother’s Day so this year is the first without him. Yes, it’s a sad day. BUT…this year we are awaiting the birth of my third grandson. My son and his wife are having their first baby…soon…any day. Yay!

    • Vernette
      May 7, 2016 / 6:34 pm

      Awww (((HUG))) for you. Happiness abounds despite the sadness. Congratulations on the new addition to your family! Have a great day tomorrow.

    • May 8, 2016 / 10:22 am

      Hugs coming your way, Corina. Thinking of you!
      xx Rowena

  6. May 7, 2016 / 7:07 pm

    I really appreciated your heartfelt post.. hugs to you!

    • Vernette
      May 7, 2016 / 7:08 pm

      Thanks Marilyn. Much appreciated.

  7. May 8, 2016 / 8:45 am

    I’m so sorry for your loss. My mom is still around causing a bit of trouble wherever she goes. She thinks she’s earned the right after ninety years of living. She may be correct in her assumption. An Ethiopian blend sounds interesting. My budget doesn’t allow for experiments though. I’m pretty much stuck with Folger’s cheapest blend. Still, I love my coffee.

    • Vernette
      May 8, 2016 / 12:02 pm

      Lol…I think your mum is very correct! Thanks for stopping by Glynis.

  8. May 8, 2016 / 10:30 am

    Vernette, thank you for sharing what sounds like a very personal and intimate grief. A grief which you want people to handle with great compassion and sensitivity. It is really hard when you’re going against the flow on those days of celebration when all that you’ve lost becomes so conscious. I haven’t lost my Mum but my husband lost his Mum 16 years ago and I don’t always think of her every Mothers’ Day. However, this year I came across a Mothers’ day card with elephants on it and she collected elephants so I gave it to my husband and I also gave him part of a Willow pattern tea set I found at the charity shop on Saturday. They had Willow pattern china at home. I wasn’t intentionally being thoughtful but it was like she was knocking on my door.
    I have an auto-immune disease and have had some close calls over the last 9 years and my kids are 12 and 10. I am surprised I’ve made it this far but am going well at the moment so am feeling quietly optimistic. For awhile there, I thought I would pass before they were old enough to remember me. So, I can well imagine the sort of anguish losing your Mum brings to you and send you my love.
    xx Rowena

    • Vernette
      May 8, 2016 / 12:08 pm

      Rowena! (((HUG))) for you. Thank you for sharing a part of your own story with me. Your journey has reminded me that this life is not easy and my hope is that we all at least walk the road in love – loving and being loved in return…as hard as we can for as long as we can. I wish you a very Happy Mother’s Day.

  9. Mariana
    May 9, 2016 / 9:40 pm

    Ethiopian blends sounds good on this cold night. I have never written about my mother anywhere, but a few days before Mother’s day I wrote on FB thanking God for her and the strength she had and also passed on to me, and my siblings. On September 4th it will be 26 years since she went back home to the Lord, and I am very grateful I had a dear friend to help me through it. On August 7th it will be 5 years since she too has gone to meet her groom in heaven. Every Sunday while singing in church I look at her smiling face in a picture I have of her, and I thank God for knowing her, and her being in my life, and being there for me. I miss them both. Thank God for mothers. They are the best.

    • Vernette
      May 14, 2016 / 8:44 am

      Mariana, I could not reply to this message before now. (((HUGS))) Who feels it knows it and you know it better than most. THANK GOD FOR MOTHERS, and Thank you for your support. Thank you for being you.

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